I was reminded of something only a few weeks ago.
That we can get these resentment, stuck stories festering in the background—maybe not huge, but definitely there. Quietly running.
I came across a reel that asked me: was I holding onto stories where what I wanted from the world and what I actually got were different? Where do you have a prediction error?
Bugger… there were several.
The story that if I had maybe stayed stronger with tech with our 2 kidlets, or taught them to talk their feelings out better, they would have a stronger, healthier life. Or that my soul business was not achieving the success I had hoped.
I could see these stories sitting in the background with no real resolution. Just shoulda, coulda, woulda’s… but didn’t.
And it reminded me of a time where a perspective shift completely changed my world.
The first time I really experienced this was over 10 years ago, when I was recovering from a stress disorder that had affected my ability to walk and deal with pressure.
At the time, my husband Shaun and I were running a business that had basically been diagnosed as… the problem.
It was a live-in role at a steakhouse and motel—definitely not an easy gig. We were running reception, assisting guests, ordering food, navigating restaurant enquiries… plus raising two small children.
Oh—and we had just had a tornado take the roof off months earlier.
We had decided the solution was to sell the business and hopefully all the stress would go with it. The only issue was, with the tornado, we had lost six months of income—so we had to wait at least 12 months for new figures before we could sell.
At this point, resentment is probably a light term.
I was pissed.
I felt stuck.
It’s like the plans I had for the future versus the actual reality were completely different—and I was trapped in between.
Shaun and I were cranky with the world, feeling like there was no solution but to… suck it up.
And then, in a strange way, a mini miracle occurred.
We had a call that Shaun may have prostate cancer.
Ok yes – it is dramatic and it was scary. This kind of fear throws chaos into everything. I highly recomend this not being what connects you to your solution!
We looked at every possible outcome, every way this could land, and after a few days of no sleep and stress, we came to a strange conclusion:
He didn’t have cancer… yet.
And as we looked around at the cage we thought we were in, something shifted.
We realised this space could actually look after us. That this life we were in could support us while we navigated whatever was coming next.
Nothing externally had changed at all.
And yet, our whole perception of our life was turned upside down.
We stepped into this space of peace & gratitude—for being exactly where we had hated being just two weeks earlier.
I think about that time every now and again—how a perspective change can have such a huge impact.
And sitting with those stories recently, I realised…
I could choose that shift again.
So I started asking myself:
Where am I holding a story of what should have happened that is not supporting me?
How do I rewrite this story so I can be kinder to myself and the path my journey has taken?
I am very blessed that I can intuitively read a healthier way of looking at some of these “prediction errors.”
When I looked at the stories with my children, I reminded myself—quite emotionally—that Shaun and I love our children deeply and did the best we could.
That allowed me to forgive myself.
The second resentment about my business reminded me that my spirituality is separate from my business—and how thankful I am that I have taken this journey to learn so much more and have beautiful, deep conversations with many friends that have helped me grow.
If I had focused more on making my soul business work, I may have got stuck in delivering the tools I am certified in, rather than experiencing the depth I received through the path I actually took.
In both cases, this really helped me forgive what is.
And the shift is huge.
Belief changing allows your external world to reflect back to you, your new stories.
I can now see how my children do express some of their feelings—and also how they are naturally shy.
I can see how much soul growth I have been through, through the conversations and tools I have collected, without needing it to be defined by business success.
I understand that not everyone intuitively reads the way I do.
But I do know this—you are intuitive.
So as you read this, see if any stories of what should have happened are popping into your mind.
And maybe make some time to journal, meditate, or daydream a new version of that story.
And feel the shift.
It is definitely worth the time ❤️
I would love to hear what has worked for you and what journey you have been on changing your perspecitves!
PS Here is the reel that re-inspired me to shift some of those stories:
Always open to chat and contemplate our navels … miss you 🥰
Oh you too gorgeous – I get slack in making time. It is overdue!!